I have struggled, for the majority of my life, with forgiving. Not just other people, but myself, too. When you decide to change your life, whether it’s eating habits, career, education, exercise/health, or some other big change….you have to forgive, a lot.
My biggest hurdle to get over, while I was losing weight, was forgiving myself for gaining the weight in the first place. I was often angry with myself for letting my weight get out of control. Mad at myself for mistreating my body. Upset about stretch marks, scars, resulting health issues. I had to accept that everything in life happens for a reason, I learned from all of my mistakes/experiences and I had to forgive myself.
I also had to learn to forgive others. I held on to a lot of anger and blame, regarding those closest to me, for many years. Angry I wasn’t taught better eating habits growing up. Angry I wasn’t taught about exercise/fitness, as a lifestyle. Angry that the people I was in relationships with were enablers. So, I had to learn forgiveness for other’s missteps, also. ***Most importantly, though, I had to grow up and stop blaming others; stop making all those excuses my crutches.
You can’t prosper and grow holding on to anger/regret/fear/blame/resentment. You can’t move forward with your life unable to let go of the past. I am responsible for every morsel of food I consume. I am responsible for being better today, than yesterday. I am also responsible for giving myself a break, not beating myself up, over how I mistreated my body/health, for so many years.
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
― Steve Maraboli,
- Life, the Truth, and Being Free